#2 - Why The African Woman Has Failed In Honouring Her Worth. – By Lilian Moeller
The African Woman has failed in many aspects of her life but most of all, she has failed to honour herself.
The culture made us to believe we were born to be mothers, wives and sisters - End of story. We have listen more to the words of men rather than the words of our creator. We spend our lives finding solutions to nurture our motherhood rather than our womanhood. We have believed everyone else except ourselves. We believed so much that doubting our worth has become second nature.
“Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away.”~ C. JoyBell C.
The African Woman wants it all, yet we so much want to be recognised in very specific areas of our lives as a wife and mother with the hope that these two aspects will bring to us the entire picture of what we yearn for. We go against our own self worth to please those who care little about our worth.
The African Women will slave themselves to keep their marriage yet the wish of the men is something else. We have slaved so much that we have belittle ourselves and taken the last place in business, politics, leadership etc.
I am not going to tell you to stop putting your marriage or children first. Far from it. Family is the backbone of every happiness. On the contrary, I will advice you to make room in your mind for other ideologies without any obstruction to the culture. Ways to navigate to your self worth which is in alignment of your whole existence, your wellbeing so you can be the person you truly were born to be.
Here are my three points for your consideration:
1) Find balance in life: “Life is a balance of holding on and letting go”. ~unknown
Finding balance in your life is the greatest struggle you will face as an African Woman. Simply because the African Woman wants it all. Therefore, you must ask yourself what your own balance life is and how would you go about it to make this balanced life possible for yourself. The foundation is gold: your health, your family, your career and your relationships is the basis to your balanced life. Be selective of this foundation and make necessary change to what serves you and what does not. You are on the path to evolution not to an unworthy life.
2) Stop seeing other women as your rival: “Women should empower each other instead of being so hateful and envious of one another”. ~ unknown
3) Get an accountability partner: Life is in constants evolution and the African Woman needs to start setting different goals for themselves. Setting goals is the first step and
completing it leads to success. From our stand point, doing it all alone will lead to frustrations. Solicit the help of an accountability partner, preferable someone you admire and who has succeeded in the things you would like to accomplish in your life. Working with an accountability partner is the smartest way to success.
Ponder over these steps then implement them and watch how you change your life in no time.
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To Your Financial Freedom.
Lilian Moeller For The African Women’s Economic And Entrepreneurship Forum.
